contoller

The absolute Ferrari on controllers is:

So we go for the Smartthings hub which supports Wifi, Zigbee, Z-Wave at $99

lighting

For lighting you can use many things but the cheapest are:

For heating you need a smart radiator valve / TRV (thermostatic radiator valve) / Central heating valve

Honeywell Evohome will be compatible with smartthings soon

Tado

Danfoss doesn't seem to work

So far it looks like you will have to connect the brand thermostat to the TRV

fake TV

fake Dog